Not another course or hack.
A reclamation, an initiation, a coming home.

Welcome~

I can not wait to journey with you

I'm Ray Taaffe. A teacher and mentor for high-achieving women who are ready to deepen the quality and richness of their lives in every dimension.


Many women come to SELM with a common experience: On the outside, things look together. But on the inside? It’s either quietly unraveling, or silently aching for care, depth, and attention.


When you’ve built the career, found some external stability, and even done a fair amount of the “work”… but things still feel fragile, disconnected, shaky, joyless, or hollow; That’s where the real descent begins.

In SELM, we dissolve the lie that says you have to do this alone. We unhook from the myth that this is as good as it gets. And we begin the work of returning fully, honestly, to yourself.


I walk beside you as we heal. As we descend into the body. As we access your unique points of freedom and guide you into truth, safety, joy, and deep liberation.

I help you make a sanctuary out of your body and your life. I support you in learning how to truly feel and sit with yourself in the no matter what. How to grow without bracing. How to expand beyond survival and trust yourself so deeply you begin to build a life that’s rooted in joy, self trust and freedom.


With a deep understanding of the somatic body, spirit, and nervous system, along with how they all shape our psychology and reality, I support you in transmuting the patterns that have quietly ruled your life for years. The ones talk therapy couldn’t quite reach. The survival strategies you've outgrown.


I bring over a decade of experience, intimate study, practice, and mentorship across the fields of somatic healing, trauma integration, spiritual development, and nervous system recalibration. My certifications include NLP, Somatic Trauma Integration, Psychedelic Facilitation, Meditation, and Breathwork. But more than any method or title, my gift is in meeting you where you are. Walking beside you in, through, and out of whatever you’re facing, so you can meet the version of you beneath the current, who is steady, free, safe, and walking the beauty way.

The Essence Of SELM

What is SELM?

Sensually Embodied Living Method

SELM is a high-touch, immersive 4 month transformational container for women who are ready to meet themselves fully, and be held deeply.


It’s 50% tested & proven curriculum and methodology I’ve developed over the last 11 years

and 50% the medicine of your life, what arises during our time together that becomes the real curriculum.


We walk with what’s real. What’s here. What’s ready to be seen and transmuted.


~ SELM unfolds in three sacred phases ~


Phase 1: EXPERIENCING

This is where we land. We attune to what is, what was, and what wants to emerge. We begin tracking the body. The thoughts. The perceptions. You start to make sense of how your current reality was formed— and begin creating a vision that is wide, true, and yours.

This phase is about awareness. The gentle naming of your internal world. And the power of knowing where you actually are before deciding where you want to go.


Phase 2: EXPANSION

This is where the real work begins. In expansion, we paradoxically descend. Into the body. Into truth. Into the places you’ve avoided, spiritualized, or managed. You begin crossing the edges you once tiptoed around. Here, you’ll meet your shadows, your pain, your patterns, your numbness, your fire. You’ll explore your relationship to pleasure and worth. You’ll learn to regulate your system, feel your emotions somatically, and alchemize your inner experience instead of being ruled by it. This is the raw, honest middle. The portal into power that doesn’t come from control, but from capacity.


Phase 3: EMBODIMENT

This is where it all integrates. Where your inner work becomes your way of life. Where you become the living prayer over your own existence. In this phase, you don’t just talk about what you’ve learned. You live it. You move from concept to congruence. From insight to integrity. You’ll deepen into what it means to be Woman; here, now. Discover your unique gifts. Reclaim your sensuality and come home to your body as a sanctuary, not a battleground. You’ll become the grounded, empowered, honest expression of who you truly are, no longer bracing or surviving, but rooted in the deeper current of your truth.

You were never meant to just hold it all together. You were meant to feel held, too

The SELM CURRICULUM

SELM is 50% curriculum I’ve spent over a decade crafting

and 50% what life brings forward in you while we walk together.

This is a four-month, high-touch descent. Not a self-paced course. Not a quick fix. This is a transformational container for women ready to show up fully, to be held, witnessed, and returned to the truth of who they are.


~ The Flow of SELM ~


– Weekly Live Ceremonial Calls

Every week, we gather in sacred space. These aren’t just Zoom calls, they are weekly ceremony. We’ll anchor into the theme of the week, deepen into the work, and let the teachings meet your real life.


– Pre-Recorded Trainings + Course Platform


You’ll receive powerful training videos to watch ahead of each week’s live call. This ensures our time together is embodied, not lecture-based, so we can focus on integration and lived experience.


– Ongoing Support


You’ll have access to a private daily messaging space for ongoing reflection, guidance, and connection. Whether you’re descending, stabilizing, celebrating, or unearthing something tender; you will not be alone. This is 24/7 touchpoint support with me and your cohort sisters.


– Midpoint In-Person Immersion


Halfway through our journey, we gather in person for a sacred weekend immersion. This is a deepening. A remembering. A crossing into new territory. You’ll sit in a traditional Niños Santos ceremony (psilocybin mushrooms), held in reverence and deep safety. We pray. We unravel. We meet one another as truthfully as we meet ourselves. And we hold each other as we relearn to hold ourselves. This is life as a living prayer. This is the beauty way.


– Optional Retreat Week


You’ll also be invited to join us for an optional full retreat; a week devoted to beauty, joy, healing, and expansion. We drop deeper into life together. Into the sacred, the sensual, the ceremony of life. You’ll meet some of my teachers, experience another gentle medicine journey, and continue cultivating the deeper current of your life. The more honest, more alive way of being that you've been working towards.

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What you'll be walking away with

Inside SELM, you’ll learn how to move emotion through your body; not manage it, suppress it, or get lost in it.

You’ll stop circling in mental loops and start feeling what’s actually there. You'll start processing pain and patterns at the root so they no longer run the show.


And as you do that, everything opens.


You’ll feel clearer. Softer. More grounded in your own energy. You’ll move through life with deeper self-trust, greater ease in your body, and a quiet confidence that doesn’t need to prove.


You exhale, and it doesn't all fall apart.


Intimacy deepens. Your life becomes more aligned. Your days feel richer, more spacious, like you’ve dropped into the life you were meant to live.


This work rewires how you relate to stress, conflict, and connection. You’ll move from protection to presence. From performance to radiance. From self-management to embodied leadership.

You’ll learn to track energy in your body and alchemize it whether it shows up as shame, control, desire, or grief. You’ll dissolve outdated patterns and build safety within, so expansion feels possible.

You’ll reclaim your sensuality and rewire your relationship to pleasure, not just sexually, but in how you live, lead, and receive life. You’ll re awaken your orgasmic life force (even if it's felt numb or shut down) and learn to channel it for healing, joy, and liberation.


You’ll no longer need to perfect or perform your way into worth. You’ll remember your body is wise. Your emotions are sacred. Your softness is power.


SELM is a homecoming.

To your body.

To your truth.

To the woman you were before you learned to survive.


This is where control softens.

Where shame dissolves.

Where your highest self is no longer a concept, but a lived reality.


Because when you finally feel safe within, everything changes.

Your life opens up in ways you've only dreamed of

For the woman who doesn’t need more information. She needs Integration. Embodiment. Descent. Reclamation.

She needs to be held until she has the living referance point, of how to hold herself in love, in beauty, in softness.

Hear From More SELM Students

“That this isn’t a program of toxic positivity where we act as if everything’s going to be fine and perfect all the time. This program has a mature acknowledgment that there will be more troubles to come, and Ray’s guiding me to an embodied version of myself that CAN and WILL move through those things.”

Allison H.

“SELM is the most important and beautiful self improvement work. Life-changing and grounding. Before SELM I was in a place of confusion, numbness, and not knowing my worth Now, half way through, I'm in a place of finding clarity, regaining strong and deep feelings, and knowing my worth more than ever”

Maddy M.

“Before SELM i was so lost but had convinced myself I was doing the “work” while actually just numbing constantly and disappearing from my life. The most impactful times were the hardest: physical and emotional abuse, sex trauma, feeling unworthy & not enough, jealousy and insecurity, and confusion over who I am and my path. But the absolute best thing that happened was the day we connected to my inner child. The little one who I’d abandoned so many years ago for being “bad”. When you encouraged me to love her instead of trying to fix her, that changed the whole game for me. The amount of self love, self nurturing, and self compassion I have now during the hardest moments (like sitting down with your sister/friend/coach and laying it all out there in it’s messy sticky realness) has been such a fucking life changer. The intimacy codes are life changing and help people connect to the capital M Me that lives inside of me. The unconditional support & nonjudgmental container that Ray provides. It’s one of the best decisions I’ve ever made in my life. ”

Vandita A.

“I would absolutely recommend SELM and one thing that I thought about is 'wow I wish I would’ve done this first I wish that I could have skipped all of the other things that I’ve tried and just started with this and then built from this foundation how beautiful with that be.' Although I do appreciate my journey to get here and I don’t want to take anything away from that. But dang I wish I could have been feeling this good a long time ago”

Stephanie L.

“I tend to not really “love a lot of emotions” But learning to pay attention to where I feel something and recognizing where they exist is interesting and really helpful. I'm really learning how to process emotions physically & finding ways to build back into my life, the things that make me happy.”

Kate M.

“The way I show up and participate in conversations not only with myself but with others. My inner voice has changed so much and I have such a different relationship with myself now. I am able to shift my limiting beliefs so quickly I am able to come out of my resistance beautifully I am able just to be. just to be happy just to be loving just to show up and be my true self. Self pleasure has such a different feel now. Being able to pleasure myself with such beautiful intention and love has been the blow ya mind kinda thing. ”

Stephanie L.

“ Ray creates deep safety. Nothing is off limits nothing is too much and she isn’t some weird new age spiritualist that claims they’re going to fix your energy. No, she’s a facilitator and a nurturer who holds your hand and the highest vision of you as you venture INTO the depths and the work. This is not a quick fix. This is life transformation. The work is so personalized to what is coming up for you but yet the curriculum works no matter what’s coming up. It’s a deep dive into yourself and it’s difficult and hard but you’re so supported the whole time”

Vandita A.

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What SELM Students Are Saying

“My intuition is definitely stronger and funnily enough my social anxiety has gone way down, which was an outcome I wasn't expecting. I trust myself more and my decisions, and I'm listening to my body more - so that had naturally led to less anxiety when I'm interacting with others. I feel like I really do HAVE MYSELF, now.”

Stephanie Shipp

“Having yourself means not being afraid of the depth of the unknown. Ray addresses misconceptions about pleasure and sensuality head-on, and naturally that means we are facing a time of ‘ok if I’ve thought this forever or I was conditioned this way up until now, now what?’ New identity is scary, but we cannot learn and become without experiencing, witnessing, deep visioning, and self care. A snippet I wrote down from Ray is “a little bit of attention with a little bit of intention goes a long way.” I feel like I’m on the cusp of this program truly redefining what I know are my rights as a woman - untangling societal expectations and trying to undo shame.”

Allison H.

“SELM is the starting point of true transformation through a sisterhood that truly witnesses all parts of you. A program designed by women for women - we learn more about ourselves, each other, and the ‘why’ and ‘how’ of what’s been missing in our daily lives and, ultimately, our female existence and relationship with pleasure.”

Allison H.

“Your light in this earth is pure gold. I'm so grateful for you shining so bright. This came through as I fell asleep last night. About you: You are teaching us how safe it gets to be to show up on earth as an embodied goddess. ”

Breeanna L.

“Ray is powerful, organized, a natural leader and fiercely kind. Before this work I didn't feel comfortable with my own truth. I always felt I needed to please others over myself. It was a built in inner dialogue... that I didn't have the right to choose me. Fast forward to now, it has been such a huge shift in the way I speak to myself and how I manage that shadow. The spirit of this group is so powerful. Having a pack of wild women who share your truth, and who you get to share their experience with... is something I will cherish for the rest of my life. I saw myself in these women and they saw me too. Such a sisterhood. Ray is a vibrant rainbow of energy!”

Stephanie L.

“Goodness girl, my heart is especially full of love and gratitude today. Until last night, I never really new what it felt like to be part of a beautiful, soulful, supportive, empowered, group of women like that. Thank you for giving me that. What a gift. ”

Jenny H.

“THANK YOU!!! I talk about this everyday to my husband. Truly. I can't imagine my life without it, and this collective in general. Just so grateful for YOU saying yes. Trusting women would sign up, knowing it would be worth it, that is a HUGE leap of faith. Thank goodness for your intuition leading the way for us to follow suit. ”

Ari A.

“I’ve never felt like I belong in a community. Not in my family. Not among my friends. Never among colleagues. The biggest takeaway, for me, from this was the community. I felt seen. I felt heard. And this longing I have to belong — felt quiet. And healed. And loved. Being around other humans who see life with open eyes reminded me not to close my own. It’s a lonely world if we don’t choose to see. It’s dark and bitter. Ray helped me to open my eyes and trust that what I’m seeing is only a fraction of what life can be (if I make the bold decision to live harder and truer). But she also helped me to accept that it’s okay to live in the space I’m in. When they say, “it takes a village” — I believe that. Except, more so, I believe it takes a collective. ”

Jade T.

“This group has really helped me realize the things I need to work on. I have always just ignored caring for and working on myself and focused on everyone else. My eyes are being opened more & more and I'm finally releasing so much that I have had inside for so long. Some things I wasn't even aware of until now. Thank you again for guiding my journey and helping me grow.”

Michelle R.

“Ray is a leader, she is strong, empathic, gentle... fairy like HA! The support and how much I felt like she really cared through this experience, was something I didn't get in other programs I've joined. Ray has changed the game. ”

Jennifer

Hear From Another SELM Student!

The descent isn’t the fall. It’s the holy return. To breath. To body.
To the woman who can finally rest & receive

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"A starting point of true transformation & redefining what it means to be Woman."

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Who SELM is For,
And Who SELM is NOT For

SELM is for you if:


✓ You're a woman who has done the mindset work, but still feels disconnected in your body

✓ You're a high-functioning, heart-weary achiever who is ready to lead from truth, not performance

✓ You want to feel joy again, not just check the boxes

✓ You want to be held. You've lone wolfed for long enough and you want a pack of sisters healing, living, mirroring and growing alongside you, in the no matter what.

✓ You are ready to stop intellectualizing healing and start embodying it

✓ You are open to somatic work, ritual, and emotional depth

✓ You are seeking a deeper connection to your sensuality, truth, and internal safety

✓ You are ready to be lovingly held and also called forward even when it's a new edge

✓ You know there’s more, and you are willing to meet yourself to find it


SELM is likely not for you if:


✗ You’re looking for a quick fix, a passive course, or something to check off your list

✗ You’re not willing to take radical responsibility for your own healing

✗ You’re uninterested in connecting to your body, emotions, or nervous system

✗ You’re unwilling to show up vulnerably or be seen in community

✗ You don't enjoy taking feedback or being coached

✗ You’re closed off to spiritual, somatic, or ceremonial approaches

✗ You’re hoping someone else will quickly do the work for you

Come be held. Come meet all of the parts you thought you had to hide. Come find yourself, find love, find safety.

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FAQ

  • What does pricing look like?

    The four month program is $3900. The medicine weekend is $1500 The optional retreat with my mentors averages at $3600

  • What kind of commitment is required for this?

    This is not a self guided program, nor is it webinar style with hundreds of participants. This is an intimate transformational & ceremonial space and we do ask for your complete commitment. This means showing up the calls (we ask you not to miss more than two calls during the four months or you may be asked to leave the container so we can preserve intimacy and connection.). You are also asked to fully participate in the course curriculum as this is the seed of your transformation. The medicine immersion is a foundational piece of this experience and the week long retreat is optional.

  • How do I now if I'm ready

    If you've read this far... you're ready. But if you need more.... -If you have built success on survival, but you're done performing -If you can hold everything, but you are ready to be held -If you feel deeply intuitive but still feel disconnected from your body -If you know you are powerful but you exhausted and anxious -If you know there’s more… but you don't want to chase it anymore -If you want to enjoy your life and not just get through it.... This is for you

  • How do I sign up?

    Follow any of the links to reserve your spot. You'll then be sent an intake form before you begin. If for any reason we decide this isn't a fit for you, you will be refunded your deposit and lovingly guided towards other options that may be a better fit.

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