Not another course or hack.
A reclamation, an initiation, a coming home.

Welcome~

I can not wait to journey with you

I'm Ray Taaffe. A teacher and mentor for women who’ve outgrown performance as a way of life but are still carrying a quiet ache underneath it all.


You’re accomplished. Self-aware. You’ve done the work. But things still feel… fragile. Disconnected. Muted.

You want to feel at home in your body. Safe in love. Clear in your truth. But instead, you find yourself bracing through each day, holding it all together, silently wondering: Is this as good as it gets?

This is where the descent begins.


Many women come to this work after years of holding themselves to impossible standards. They’re not lost but they’re tired. Tired of relationships that don’t meet them. Tired of navigating the world from a place of fear, anxiety, or overthinking. Tired of feeling too much and never enough at the same time.

They don’t need another mindset hack. They need a place to exhale. To unravel what’s been running the show beneath the surface. To feel held enough to finally soften into who they really are.


In SELM, we break the trance of survival. We return to the body, not to fix it, but to live from it. We access the parts of you that have been holding their breath for years. And we let them breathe. I walk beside you as you reclaim your clarity, your sensuality, your voice, and your joy. We don’t rush. We descend. So you can build a life that’s not just functional but full. A life where your body is a sanctuary. Your boundaries are clean. Your relationships are safe. And your nervous system knows how to hold it all.


With over a decade of experience in somatics, trauma integration, spiritual development, and nervous system recalibration, I help you shift the patterns therapy couldn’t quite reach. Not through force, but through devotion. Not from your head, but from the deep knowing beneath the surface. You don’t need to be fixed. You need a space that can hold your truth, meet your fear, and guide you home. This is the work. This is the descent. This is The Deeper Current.


The Essence Of SELM

What is SELM?

Sensually Embodied Living Method

SELM is a high-touch, 6-month immersion for women ready to meet themselves fully and be held in a way they never have before.


It’s part proven methodology, part sacred unfolding.

Half structured curriculum built from 11 years of practice and study.

Half the living medicine of your own life, the real-time material that arises during our time together and becomes the deepest initiation of all.


We walk with what’s real. What’s here. What’s ready to be seen, felt, and transmuted.


This journey unfolds in three distinct phases:


Phase 1: EXPERIENCING

This is where we land. We slow down enough to track your body, your thoughts, your patterns, and your perception of reality. You begin to see clearly how your world was shaped. And from that awareness, a new vision begins to form — one that is wide, true, and fully yours. This is the beginning of coming home. To your body. To your truth. To what’s actually here, instead of what you’ve been performing.


Phase 2: EXPANSION

This is where the real work begins.

Not in effort. But in descent. Into your body. Into the places you’ve avoided, intellectualized, or spiritualized. You begin crossing the edges you’ve long tiptoed around.

You’ll meet your shadow. Your pain. Your fire. You’ll explore your relationship with pleasure, safety, and worth. You’ll learn to regulate your system and feel your emotions somatically so you can stop being ruled by what’s unprocessed and start alchemizing it.

This phase is raw. Honest. Alive. It’s where you stop bracing and start becoming.


Phase 3: EMBODIMENT

This is where the integration happens. Where the inner work becomes your way of life.

Where you no longer have to try to hold it all together, you simply become the woman who can.

You don’t just talk about boundaries. You live them.

You don’t just know your truth. You move from it.

You don’t just think about self-trust. You embody it.

This is where you reclaim your sensuality. Your softness. Your wholeness. Your voice. Your capacity to be deeply rooted, even when the world around you isn’t.

You become the grounded, clear, powerful woman you came here to be held not by performance, but by the deeper current of your truth.

You were never meant to just hold it all together. You were meant to feel held, too

The SELM CURRICULUM

This program is half curriculum I’ve spent over a decade refining, and half the medicine that life brings forward in you as we walk together.

This is a six-month, high-touch descent.

Not a course. Not a quick fix.

But a sacred container for women ready to show up fully, to be seen, held, and returned to the truth of who they are.


What You’ll Experience Inside Of This Deeper Current


– Weekly Live Ceremonial Calls


Each week, we gather in ceremony. These aren’t just calls, they are sacred spaces to drop in, be witnessed, and meet what’s real.

We anchor into the week’s theme, explore what’s arising, and allow the teachings to meet your life where it’s actually unfolding.


– Pre-Recorded Trainings + Course Platform


Each module includes pre-recorded trainings to watch ahead of our live call. This allows our time together to stay grounded in presence, not lecture so we can focus on your lived experience, not just your intellectual understanding.


– Daily Support + Private Messaging Space


You’ll have access to a private space for daily connection and support. Whether you’re descending, stabilizing, unraveling, or celebrating, you won’t be alone. This is where integration lives, in the real-time reflections, questions, and sacred sisterhood that holds you through every layer of this work.


– Midpoint In-Person Immersion


Halfway through our journey, we gather in person for a sacred weekend immersion. This is where the descent deepens and your devotion anchors. You’ll sit in a traditional Niños Santos ceremony with psilocybin mushrooms, held in deep reverence and safety. We pray. We unravel. We remember. You’ll be met fully by yourself and by others, and you’ll leave this weekend changed. Not from force, but from finally letting yourself be seen.


– Optional Retreat Week


You’ll also be invited to join us for a closing retreat as your journey begins to come to an end, an optional but powerful extension of your becoming.

We gather for joy. For beauty. For healing. For depth. You’ll meet some of my teachers, experience another gentle medicine ceremony, and continue living into the deeper current of your life. The more honest, more embodied way of being that’s been calling you for years.

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What you'll be walking away with

Inside this program, you’ll learn how to move emotion through your body.

Not manage it. Not suppress it. Not get lost in it.


You’ll stop circling in thought loops and start actually feeling what’s underneath. You’ll begin to process pain and patterns at the root so they stop running the show in your relationships, your body, and your choices.

And as you do that, something shifts.

You feel clearer. Softer. More grounded in your own energy. You move through life with self-trust that isn’t performative, it’s lived. Your body becomes a place you can actually relax into.

You exhale. And for the first time, it doesn’t all fall apart.


Intimacy deepens. The way you move through your day feels different. It softens. Your life becomes more honest, more spacious, more yours. Not because you finally got it all right, but because you stopped abandoning yourself.


This work rewires how you relate to stress, conflict, and connection. You’ll move from protection into presence. From performance into radiance. From managing yourself into embodying who you actually are.


You’ll learn to track energy in your body and alchemize it, whether it shows up as shame, control, desire, or grief.

You’ll dissolve outdated survival strategies and build safety from within, so expansion doesn’t just feel possible, it feels inevitable. It feels pleasurable.


You’ll reclaim your sensuality. Not just in sex, but in the way you lead, speak, receive, and move through your life.

You’ll awaken the part of you that’s been numb, shut down, or braced, and learn how to channel that life force into joy, intimacy, creativity, and liberation.

You’ll stop trying to perfect or perform your way into worth. You’ll stop outsourcing your safety. And you’ll finally feel the power of what it means to come home to yourself.


This is a return. To your body. To your truth. To the woman you were before you learned to survive.


This is where control softens. Where shame loses its grip. Where your highest self becomes a felt reality; not a performance.

Because when your body feels safe, everything changes. Your life opens in ways you’ve only dreamed of.


For the woman who doesn’t need more information. She needs Integration. Embodiment. Descent. Reclamation.

She needs to be held until she has the living referance point, of how to hold herself in love, in beauty, in softness.

Hear From More SELM Students

“That this isn’t a program of toxic positivity where we act as if everything’s going to be fine and perfect all the time. This program has a mature acknowledgment that there will be more troubles to come, and Ray’s guiding me to an embodied version of myself that CAN and WILL move through those things.”

Allison H.

“SELM is the most important and beautiful self improvement work. Life-changing and grounding. Before SELM I was in a place of confusion, numbness, and not knowing my worth Now, half way through, I'm in a place of finding clarity, regaining strong and deep feelings, and knowing my worth more than ever”

Maddy M.

“Before SELM i was so lost but had convinced myself I was doing the “work” while actually just numbing constantly and disappearing from my life. The most impactful times were the hardest: physical and emotional abuse, sex trauma, feeling unworthy & not enough, jealousy and insecurity, and confusion over who I am and my path. But the absolute best thing that happened was the day we connected to my inner child. The little one who I’d abandoned so many years ago for being “bad”. When you encouraged me to love her instead of trying to fix her, that changed the whole game for me. The amount of self love, self nurturing, and self compassion I have now during the hardest moments (like sitting down with your sister/friend/coach and laying it all out there in it’s messy sticky realness) has been such a fucking life changer. The intimacy codes are life changing and help people connect to the capital M Me that lives inside of me. The unconditional support & nonjudgmental container that Ray provides. It’s one of the best decisions I’ve ever made in my life. ”

Vandita A.

“I would absolutely recommend SELM and one thing that I thought about is 'wow I wish I would’ve done this first I wish that I could have skipped all of the other things that I’ve tried and just started with this and then built from this foundation how beautiful with that be.' Although I do appreciate my journey to get here and I don’t want to take anything away from that. But dang I wish I could have been feeling this good a long time ago”

Stephanie L.

“I tend to not really “love a lot of emotions” But learning to pay attention to where I feel something and recognizing where they exist is interesting and really helpful. I'm really learning how to process emotions physically & finding ways to build back into my life, the things that make me happy.”

Kate M.

“The way I show up and participate in conversations not only with myself but with others. My inner voice has changed so much and I have such a different relationship with myself now. I am able to shift my limiting beliefs so quickly I am able to come out of my resistance beautifully I am able just to be. just to be happy just to be loving just to show up and be my true self. Self pleasure has such a different feel now. Being able to pleasure myself with such beautiful intention and love has been the blow ya mind kinda thing. ”

Stephanie L.

“ Ray creates deep safety. Nothing is off limits nothing is too much and she isn’t some weird new age spiritualist that claims they’re going to fix your energy. No, she’s a facilitator and a nurturer who holds your hand and the highest vision of you as you venture INTO the depths and the work. This is not a quick fix. This is life transformation. The work is so personalized to what is coming up for you but yet the curriculum works no matter what’s coming up. It’s a deep dive into yourself and it’s difficult and hard but you’re so supported the whole time”

Vandita A.

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What SELM Students Are Saying

“My intuition is definitely stronger and funnily enough my social anxiety has gone way down, which was an outcome I wasn't expecting. I trust myself more and my decisions, and I'm listening to my body more - so that had naturally led to less anxiety when I'm interacting with others. I feel like I really do HAVE MYSELF, now.”

Stephanie Shipp

“Having yourself means not being afraid of the depth of the unknown. Ray addresses misconceptions about pleasure and sensuality head-on, and naturally that means we are facing a time of ‘ok if I’ve thought this forever or I was conditioned this way up until now, now what?’ New identity is scary, but we cannot learn and become without experiencing, witnessing, deep visioning, and self care. A snippet I wrote down from Ray is “a little bit of attention with a little bit of intention goes a long way.” I feel like I’m on the cusp of this program truly redefining what I know are my rights as a woman - untangling societal expectations and trying to undo shame.”

Allison H.

“SELM is the starting point of true transformation through a sisterhood that truly witnesses all parts of you. A program designed by women for women - we learn more about ourselves, each other, and the ‘why’ and ‘how’ of what’s been missing in our daily lives and, ultimately, our female existence and relationship with pleasure.”

Allison H.

“Your light in this earth is pure gold. I'm so grateful for you shining so bright. This came through as I fell asleep last night. About you: You are teaching us how safe it gets to be to show up on earth as an embodied goddess. ”

Breeanna L.

“Ray is powerful, organized, a natural leader and fiercely kind. Before this work I didn't feel comfortable with my own truth. I always felt I needed to please others over myself. It was a built in inner dialogue... that I didn't have the right to choose me. Fast forward to now, it has been such a huge shift in the way I speak to myself and how I manage that shadow. The spirit of this group is so powerful. Having a pack of wild women who share your truth, and who you get to share their experience with... is something I will cherish for the rest of my life. I saw myself in these women and they saw me too. Such a sisterhood. Ray is a vibrant rainbow of energy!”

Stephanie L.

“Goodness girl, my heart is especially full of love and gratitude today. Until last night, I never really new what it felt like to be part of a beautiful, soulful, supportive, empowered, group of women like that. Thank you for giving me that. What a gift. ”

Jenny H.

“THANK YOU!!! I talk about this everyday to my husband. Truly. I can't imagine my life without it, and this collective in general. Just so grateful for YOU saying yes. Trusting women would sign up, knowing it would be worth it, that is a HUGE leap of faith. Thank goodness for your intuition leading the way for us to follow suit. ”

Ari A.

“I’ve never felt like I belong in a community. Not in my family. Not among my friends. Never among colleagues. The biggest takeaway, for me, from this was the community. I felt seen. I felt heard. And this longing I have to belong — felt quiet. And healed. And loved. Being around other humans who see life with open eyes reminded me not to close my own. It’s a lonely world if we don’t choose to see. It’s dark and bitter. Ray helped me to open my eyes and trust that what I’m seeing is only a fraction of what life can be (if I make the bold decision to live harder and truer). But she also helped me to accept that it’s okay to live in the space I’m in. When they say, “it takes a village” — I believe that. Except, more so, I believe it takes a collective. ”

Jade T.

“This group has really helped me realize the things I need to work on. I have always just ignored caring for and working on myself and focused on everyone else. My eyes are being opened more & more and I'm finally releasing so much that I have had inside for so long. Some things I wasn't even aware of until now. Thank you again for guiding my journey and helping me grow.”

Michelle R.

“Ray is a leader, she is strong, empathic, gentle... fairy like HA! The support and how much I felt like she really cared through this experience, was something I didn't get in other programs I've joined. Ray has changed the game. ”

Jennifer

Hear From Another SELM Student!

The descent isn’t the fall. It’s the holy return. To breath. To body.
To the woman who can finally rest & receive

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Who SELM is For,
And Who SELM is NOT For

SELM is for you if:


✓ You’re a woman who’s done the mindset work but still feels disconnected in your body and emotionally undernourished

✓ You’ve held it all together for a long time but you're done leading from performance, you're ready to lead from truth

✓ You want to feel joy again not just tick the boxes of a “good life” that still feels empty underneath

✓ You’re ready to be held You’ve lone-wolfed for long enough and you want to walk alongside women who can meet you in the raw and the real.

✓ You’re ready to stop intellectualizing healing and start feeling it in your body

✓ You’re open to somatic work, ritual, emotional depth, and sacred space

✓ You’re seeking deeper connection to your sensuality, truth, and internal safety

✓ You’re ready to be both held and called forward Even when it’s edgy. Even when it stretches you.

✓ You know there’s more and you’re willing to meet yourself to find it


SELM is likely not for you if:


✗ You’re looking for a quick fix or a passive course to consume

✗ You’re not willing to take ownership of your healing process

✗ You aren’t open to connecting with your body, emotions, or nervous system

✗ You’re unwilling to show up vulnerably or be seen in community

✗ You’re not receptive to reflection, support, or growth edges

✗ You’re closed off to spiritual, somatic, or ceremonial work

✗ You want someone else to “fix” you without facing yourself

Come be held. Come meet all of the parts you thought you had to hide. Come find yourself, find love, find safety.

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FAQ

  • What does pricing look like?

    The four month program is $3900. The half way point medicine weekend is $1500 (includes your room, food and medicine ceremony) The optional week long retreat averages at $3800 - $4200 (includes room & board, most meals, most adventures, photoshoot, ceremony etc)

  • What kind of commitment is required for this?

    This is not a self guided program, nor is it webinar style with hundreds of participants. This is an intimate transformational & ceremonial space and we do ask for your complete commitment. This means showing up the calls (we ask you not to miss more than two calls during the four months or you may be asked to leave the container so we can preserve intimacy and connection.). You are also asked to fully participate in the course curriculum as this is the seed of your transformation. The medicine immersion is a foundational piece of this experience and the week long retreat is optional.

  • How do I now if I'm ready

    If you've read this far... you're ready. But if you need more.... -If you have built success on survival, but you're done performing -If you can hold everything, but you are ready to be held -If you feel deeply intuitive but still feel disconnected from your body -If you know you are powerful but you exhausted and anxious -If you know there’s more… but you don't want to chase it anymore -If you want to enjoy your life and not just get through it.... This is for you

  • How do I sign up?

    Follow any of the links to reserve your spot. You'll then be sent an intake form before you begin. If for any reason we decide this isn't a fit for you, you will be refunded your deposit and lovingly guided towards other options that may be a better fit.

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