Sensually Embodied Living For Women
Step out of anxiety, stress & perfectionism, and step into grounded self trust, embodied joy & healthy femininity
Welcome~
I can not wait to journey with you
I'm Ray Taaffe. A teacher for high achieving women ready to deepen the overall quality & intimacy of their lives, in every area.
Something many women come to SELM sharing….
Is the experience of having their outside life “together”
but the inside life, is falling apart.
Or, maybe it’s not falling apart quite yet, but it’s craving & crying out for attention and care.
They have the job, they have some external stability, they’ve all done some of the “work” but their 𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘳 𝘭𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘴𝘤𝘢𝘱𝘦…. is feeling like foreign territory.
In SELM we dissolve 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘪𝘦 that’s telling you you need to do this alone, or that this is as good as it gets.
I walk hand in hand with you as we heal, deepen into the body, access YOUR unique points of freedom and support you in finding ultimate truth & liberation.
FOR SENSITIVE WOMEN, BECOMING LIBERATED LEADERS.
With a deep understanding of the somatic body and how it relates to our psychology and our nervous system, I support women in transmuting traumas that have been ruling their life for years and release habits or loops that they have been stuck in, that talk therapy or traditional methods of healing have yet to help them move through.
I have 11 years under my belt of working intimately with my teachers and studying various methods of healing & understanding the brain, body, spiritual body, energetic body and the nervous system .
Aside from training under my own teachers, healers & shamans over the years, I also hold certifications in NLP, Somatic Trauma Integration, Reiki and Meditation & Breathwork.
Outside of any training or certification, my top priority and gift really, is meeting you exactly where you are. Stepping outside of the methods or the perceived path… and walking with you, as we journey in, through and out of whatever it is you are experiencing.
𝐒𝐚𝐟𝐞𝐭𝐲. 𝐕𝐮𝐥𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲. 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐄𝐱𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 & 𝐔𝐧𝐛𝐫𝐢𝐝𝐥𝐞𝐝 𝐓𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐡
(𝘈𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘰𝘧 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘴𝘦 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯)
Are the core principles of my work.
We go deep
We go far
And we go together.
What is SELM?
Sensually Embodied Living Method
SELM is a high touch, immersive 4 month container for women. SELM is 50% curriculum and methodology I have created over the last 11 years and 50% what you bring to the table; the curriculum life presents to you during our time together, to work through.
~ SELM essentially has 3 phases to it. ~
Phase 1- EXPERIENCING:Here is where we land. Where we attune to what is, what was & was is desired. Here we learn to track our body, our thoughts & our perceptions. We begin to make cognitive sense of where we are & curate a clear & expansive vision for where we want to go.
Phase 2- EXPANSION:
This is where the work begins. In our expansion is where we get to meet & cross our edges. We dive deep into who we are, where our pain lives, our relationship to pleasure & worth, & explore all of the spots holding darkness, to bring them into the light. In phase 2 you get opportunities to deeply practice vulnerability, self expression, nervous system regulation & the art of bringing your emotions down from the mind, front & center into your somatic body, to really alchemize them & utilize them rather than being ruled by them.
Phase 3- EMBODIMENT:
This is where we become the living prayer over our life. This is where we take all of the tools we learned in our Experience, all of the wisdom we gained in our Expansion & we step into the actualized version of ourself every day, in every way, always. Embodiment is you living out in real time, all of the work you have done, truly becoming the ripple effect into this world.
You will deepen what it means to be Woman on this earth. You'll learn where your unique gifts are. You will reconcile any incongruencies or illusions around your sexuality & sensuality and you will step into the grounded, empowered & honest expression of You.
The SELM CURRICULUM
As previously mentioned, SELM is 50% curriculum and 50% what is moving through you and your life during our time together.
~The SELM Setup~
-You will have a live call every week during our 4 months together
-A course platform where all of your training videos & material will live (you'll watch these trainings before we gather for our live calls each week)
-You will have additional accountability & emotional support coaches
-You will have full access to a telegram chat with me, your cohort sisters & your accountability & emotional support coach so you can receive support in between all of our sessions
-You will also have the opportunity to participate in an in person, overnight weekend medicine immersion half way through your program (This is an additional cost, not required but highly recommended)
***Also note, SELM is the prerequisite for our week long Embodied Retreats that happen once a year (Baja & Costa Rica)
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Within the SELM curriculum you will develop the necessary tools & learn how to identify and move energy through the body (processing emotions deeper & more fully, rather than getting stuck in loops.)
This will change your physical health, your relationships, your self worth & your confidence. You will learn on a scientific and spiritual level, the different energy centers of the body and how to actually use them to influence your life, to work through physical ailments, to open up your intimacy and strengthen your leadership. You will go through a deep healing, as we untangle lingering shame in your system & subconscious beliefs / contracts that are no longer supporting where you want to go in your life. You will likely go through a process of letting go of old protection & life navigation strategies and develop healthier, stronger more embodied ones.
You will completely retrain your mind, body & nervous system around intimacy, sex and sensuality. You will learn how to hold both pleasure & pain to expand your capacity to handle ALL of life's waves... and to experience greater, more full spectrum pleasure. (Not just sexually, but in your daily life.)
You will learn how to harness your orgasmic energy (the energy that is the source of all creation on earth) to deeply heal your body & your spiritual self in ways you never have before. You will learn tangible & actionable ways to improve your leadership and the ways in which you create safe spaces for yourself and for others. You will learn to develop your own gifts, your own intuition, a deeper connection to yourself (which makes way for deeper connection to others) you will strengthen your capacity for discomfort in order to be able to receive your ultimate truth, empowerment & liberation.
SELM is a coming home to your body, a being witnessed by other women walking with you, a deep dive into your darkest shadows AND a calling forth of your highest self.
It's spiritual and it's scientific.
It's hard and it's the most natural.
It's vulnerable and it's deeply healing.
It's internal and it's external.
As I tell all of my students, "The work works, if you work it. And when we do what's best for us, it in turn ends up being whats best for all those around us"
This is YOUR space to do what's best for you. To heal, to rediscover who you are, to welcome back the intrinsic feminine nature that's been shamed out of you, to let go of perfectionism or using spirituality as another matrix / barrier of "not enough-ness" to profoundly deepen in pleasure, internal power and catapult your leadership (regardless of the type of work that you do) in every aspect of your life.
Being a Sensually Embodied Woman is bringing all of you to the table. Its holding yourself in the discomfort and the pleasure. Its moving further away from self criticism and into deeper self love. Its gaining the awareness of what your truth is, AND the confidence to claim that.
And, it is so much more.
SELM allows you to finally heal some of the most stuck areas of your life, to build a sense of unshakeable safety within yourself and truly step into your fully expressed, fully embodied and fully capable self.
Move your pain into pleasure
And shift from protector, to surrender.
More Words From SELM Students
“That this isn’t a program of toxic positivity where we act as if everything’s going to be fine and perfect all the time. This program has a mature acknowledgment that there will be more troubles to come, and Ray’s guiding me to an embodied version of myself that CAN and WILL move through those things.”
Allison H.
“SELM is the most important and beautiful self improvement work. Life-changing and grounding. Before SELM I was in a place of confusion, numbness, and not knowing my worth Now, half way through, I'm in a place of finding clarity, regaining strong and deep feelings, and knowing my worth more than ever”
Maddy M.
“Before SELM i was so lost but had convinced myself I was doing the “work” while actually just numbing constantly and disappearing from my life. The most impactful times were the hardest: physical and emotional abuse, sex trauma, feeling unworthy & not enough, jealousy and insecurity, and confusion over who I am and my path. But the absolute best thing that happened was the day we connected to my inner child. The little one who I’d abandoned so many years ago for being “bad”. When you encouraged me to love her instead of trying to fix her, that changed the whole game for me. The amount of self love, self nurturing, and self compassion I have now during the hardest moments (like sitting down with your sister/friend/coach and laying it all out there in it’s messy sticky realness) has been such a fucking life changer. The intimacy codes are life changing and help people connect to the capital M Me that lives inside of me. The unconditional support & nonjudgmental container that Ray provides. It’s one of the best decisions I’ve ever made in my life. ”
Vandita A.
“I would absolutely recommend SELM and one thing that I thought about is 'wow I wish I would’ve done this first I wish that I could have skipped all of the other things that I’ve tried and just started with this and then built from this foundation how beautiful with that be.' Although I do appreciate my journey to get here and I don’t want to take anything away from that. But dang I wish I could have been feeling this good a long time ago”
Stephanie L.
“I tend to not really “love a lot of emotions” But learning to pay attention to where I feel something and recognizing where they exist is interesting and really helpful. I'm really learning how to process emotions physically & finding ways to build back into my life, the things that make me happy.”
Kate M.
“The way I show up and participate in conversations not only with myself but with others. My inner voice has changed so much and I have such a different relationship with myself now. I am able to shift my limiting beliefs so quickly I am able to come out of my resistance beautifully I am able just to be. just to be happy just to be loving just to show up and be my true self. Self pleasure has such a different feel now. Being able to pleasure myself with such beautiful intention and love has been the blow ya mind kinda thing. ”
Stephanie L.
“ Ray creates deep safety. Nothing is off limits nothing is too much and she isn’t some weird new age spiritualist that claims they’re going to fix your energy. No, she’s a facilitator and a nurturer who holds your hand and the highest vision of you as you venture INTO the depths and the work. This is not a quick fix. This is life transformation. The work is so personalized to what is coming up for you but yet the curriculum works no matter what’s coming up. It’s a deep dive into yourself and it’s difficult and hard but you’re so supported the whole time”
Vandita A.
What SELM Students Are Saying
“My intuition is definitely stronger and funnily enough my social anxiety has gone way down, which was an outcome I wasn't expecting. I trust myself more and my decisions, and I'm listening to my body more - so that had naturally led to less anxiety when I'm interacting with others. I feel like I really do HAVE MYSELF, now.”
Stephanie Shipp
“Having yourself means not being afraid of the depth of the unknown. Ray addresses misconceptions about pleasure and sensuality head-on, and naturally that means we are facing a time of ‘ok if I’ve thought this forever or I was conditioned this way up until now, now what?’ New identity is scary, but we cannot learn and become without experiencing, witnessing, deep visioning, and self care. A snippet I wrote down from Ray is “a little bit of attention with a little bit of intention goes a long way.” I feel like I’m on the cusp of this program truly redefining what I know are my rights as a woman - untangling societal expectations and trying to undo shame.”
Allison H.
“SELM is the starting point of true transformation through a sisterhood that truly witnesses all parts of you. A program designed by women for women - we learn more about ourselves, each other, and the ‘why’ and ‘how’ of what’s been missing in our daily lives and, ultimately, our female existence and relationship with pleasure.”
Allison H.
“Your light in this earth is pure gold. I'm so grateful for you shining so bright. This came through as I fell asleep last night. About you: You are teaching us how safe it gets to be to show up on earth as an embodied goddess. ”
Breeanna L.
“Ray is powerful, organized, a natural leader and fiercely kind. Before this work I didn't feel comfortable with my own truth. I always felt I needed to please others over myself. It was a built in inner dialogue... that I didn't have the right to choose me. Fast forward to now, it has been such a huge shift in the way I speak to myself and how I manage that shadow. The spirit of this group is so powerful. Having a pack of wild women who share your truth, and who you get to share their experience with... is something I will cherish for the rest of my life. I saw myself in these women and they saw me too. Such a sisterhood. Ray is a vibrant rainbow of energy!”
Stephanie L.
“Goodness girl, my heart is especially full of love and gratitude today. Until last night, I never really new what it felt like to be part of a beautiful, soulful, supportive, empowered, group of women like that. Thank you for giving me that. What a gift. ”
Jenny H.
“THANK YOU!!! I talk about this everyday to my husband. Truly. I can't imagine my life without it, and this collective in general. Just so grateful for YOU saying yes. Trusting women would sign up, knowing it would be worth it, that is a HUGE leap of faith. Thank goodness for your intuition leading the way for us to follow suit. ”
Ari A.
“I’ve never felt like I belong in a community. Not in my family. Not among my friends. Never among colleagues. The biggest takeaway, for me, from this was the community. I felt seen. I felt heard. And this longing I have to belong — felt quiet. And healed. And loved. Being around other humans who see life with open eyes reminded me not to close my own. It’s a lonely world if we don’t choose to see. It’s dark and bitter. Ray helped me to open my eyes and trust that what I’m seeing is only a fraction of what life can be (if I make the bold decision to live harder and truer). But she also helped me to accept that it’s okay to live in the space I’m in. When they say, “it takes a village” — I believe that. Except, more so, I believe it takes a collective. ”
Jade T.
“This group has really helped me realize the things I need to work on. I have always just ignored caring for and working on myself and focused on everyone else. My eyes are being opened more & more and I'm finally releasing so much that I have had inside for so long. Some things I wasn't even aware of until now. Thank you again for guiding my journey and helping me grow.”
Michelle R.
“Ray is a leader, she is strong, empathic, gentle... fairy like HA! The support and how much I felt like she really cared through this experience, was something I didn't get in other programs I've joined. Ray has changed the game. ”
Jennifer
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